Today I’d like to give you some tips on how to prepare yourself for difficult situations, in conflicts and crises, and how to build more personal resilience. Again and again I am asked how best to communicate with others in difficult situations. There are good tips and tricks that work.
Communication and resilience
Good external communication only becomes optimally effective, if internal communication, ie with ourselves, takes place consciously and works well. It is only when I have clarity about my point of view, of my own needs and values, and a clear perception, that I have the necessary personal security as the basis for successful external communication.
But what exactly does resilience mean?
Resilience or mental resilience is the ability to cope with crises and use the crisis as an opportunity for personal development through recourse to personal and socially-mediated resources.
Resilience in a world full of crises and insecurity
We live in a time of ever faster change processes, of deep upheavals, and crises in virtually all areas of life. At the same time, the awareness of crisis has become just as acute as the search for effective ways to solve it. It is no wonder that the concept of resilience has become a new leitmotif in scientific and popular science publications.
The demands that the working world places upon us change with perceived speed of light, at least as fast as never before. This results in extremely high demands on people. Both companies and employees need to adapt to new situations faster. Some people get sick and almost break it, while others seem to go through the changes effortlessly.
Resilience helps us to better handle tragic events and serves us more generally in dealing with difficult situations and conflicts. This includes communication.
A change of perspective: From deficit- to resource thinking
The special charm of the term resilience lies in the fact that crises are seen as opportunities at the same time. It is not always about big life crises, but often about the little “crises of everyday life”, which quickly raise the blood pressure, swell the wrathful veins or simply leave you with a feeling of helplessness or frustration.
So crisis as an opportunity. The focus is on those resources that are helpful in mastering crises and being less vulnerable to disruptions. The interest is no longer (primarily) with the lack of something. The focus is more on the question of whether the available personal, social and structural potentials are sufficient to cope with changes and crises. Above all, I want to know how I get and develop these potentials.
Old knowledge for resilience in everyday life
With the ancient knowledge and wisdom of indigenous peoples, you can build and strengthen your inner shield of inner resilience. This knowledge, which I received from my grandparents in the Montafon Mountains and from the Native North American Apache, I like to pass on to you. You will be prepared for every situation. Today I give you 3 highly effective tips on how to gain more strength, power, and serenity. These are very simple steps that, despite – or perhaps because of – their simplicity, are so powerful and effective:
Tip #1 – Go regularly into nature and sharpen your senses
You will get the necessary mental clarity and security.
Because the feeling of security is the key to successful stress management in difficult situations. The recent findings of science show that human beings are basically a highly talented change, conflict and crisis manager.
Indigenous peoples know about the survival importance of mental clarity and presence in order to be able to correctly assess a situation and train them regularly through meditation or mindfulness in nature. Because this mental clarity and presence provides security.
Go regularly into nature and sharpen your senses: perceive the scents and smells of trees, flowers and herbs, the musty soil after a downpour, the promising smell of wild blackberries or fresh mushrooms. Enjoy the variety of bird sounds and the rustle of the wind through the forest of leaves, which sounds very different from the sound of the wind through firs and other conifers. This brings you deep relaxation, clarity and security for everyday life.
Tip #2 – Anchor yourself with conscious breathing
Breathe through difficult situations and win sovereignty and security. Keep breathing deeply, very deliberately.
Sit or stand consciously, with the soles of your feet firmly on the ground. With each inhalation imagine that you are drawing strength from the earth, over the soles of your feet, over your legs up into the whole body, into your head.
As you breathe out, imagine breathing away all heaviness, all annoyance, all frustration, all mourning and everything dark, out of the body. It flows from your body, into the earth. The body becomes lighter and lighter. You can think straight again and know which next step is the right one.
Because it often happens that we simply forget to breathe, because we are lost in thoughts, because we are annoyed or worried about something. To put one’s own mind on the breath is then a wonderful way to (re)connect with your body, gain clarity, and communicate better.
Tip #3 – Communicate clearly
A functioning, clear communication in both professional and personal life is essential to be able to respond effectively in difficult situations. The basics of good communication are now widely known: active listening, communication through body language and other fundamentals are no longer a secret.
In practice, it is helpful to be aware that messages are understood differently by different recipients, and that we as senders are very different. Therefore, be clear about different. orientation patterns and values that underlie your communication. This will avoid misunderstandings, especially in difficult situations.
I wish you every success in the implementation, above all clarity, strength and serenity!